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When I left college I met a man that was alot older than me. To cut a long story short, he took advantage of the vulnerable state I was in after a miscarriage and bad depression. He convinced me to move away from home and live with him but gradually got very nasty and controlling and ended up being physically abusive on many occassions.
During this time I got close to many of his friends as I didnt know anyone else in the area.
Years later after managing to escape the horrible man, his ex girlfriend contacted me to ask if I was ok. Turns out he had been horribly abusive to her as well. Even after us both confiding in some of these friends and one of his siblings (who are in the same social circle) about the abuse we suffered they either seem to refuse to believe it or choose to ignore it.
They have now completely cut me off and I dont understand! Many of the friends had told me in the past that they dont like the guy and the only reason he gets invited out is because hes the brother of one of the friends.
The reason I'm posting this is to find out what you would do if you were in the situation where a friend confided in you about an abusive partner who happened to be your friend also. Is it just a case of who you were friends with first? I would just like to understand where they might be coming from.
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Friends siding with abusive ex. Would you?
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LeftAlone · 04/07/2012 15:32
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