Ins and outs of Divorcing DH.

[Feelinglonely1982]

Things have just become so difficult between us. Its been like this for quite some time.

There is a lot of pressure.. thing is I dont know where to turn. We are married but I work within his company part time which is from home and do all other household things etc. He works full time and is in and out of home for work. I also have problems with my health. I get panic attacks, anxiety and probably suffering agrophobia, therefore going to find it difficult to find work, thats why the working within the company works because its from home.

I would find it hard to leave as i dont have enough money of my own to pay my own bills. I get a wage but nowhere near enough to cover bills, rent, mortage etc. Really im asking if i left am i entitled to anything?

The company I work for is ticking over but he has a successful property company besides this.

I just feel I cant go on anymore, i thnk this is the depression and anxiety. He has always sorted out bills etc and money matters for home. Im in two minds wether to go but if decide I want to go, how will i cope financially or do I have to live here feeling miserable. Is that what others do just put up with it and live together?

what can i do?

[Feelinglonely1982]

Feel so sad. Also please can someone tell me how to delete this thread later?

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Take one thing at a time. Is 'pressure' something like not talking to each other? An atmosphere? Sniping? Or is there something more serious going on? Are the health problems caused or made worse by the relationship problems or do you think they'd be there, even if you were independent? Are you getting treatment for your health problems and is he supportive or not? Is he aware that you are so unhappy?

Re finance. As a wife you have a lot of rights in the event of a divorce, not least a split of the marital assets. You don't say how long you've been married or if there are any children but you seem very dependent on him for your livelihood and, in the event of a split, that would be taken into account. The best thing to do would be to talk to a solicitor and let them explain this in more detail

Many of us on this board are still here and thriving after a divorce. We may have had to downsize or budget a little more closely, learn how to drive a lawnmower or set up Direct Debits single-handed, but it is quite possible to make a very good life solo. Having said that, you sound extremely desperate. If you have no-one to talk to think about calling Samaritans