Sorry for an ignorant post asking about aspergers as I am the first to admit I know not much of the condition but after reading up on the traits of the aspergers sufferer I have wondered many times if DP has it. He doesn't always respond in conversations, "switches off" because he's thinking of something else, walks away mid conversation. He says inappropriate stuff sometimes (like when our lovely neighbour died DP's first reaction was "oh great, hope we don't get a load of chavs moving in next door". And when a family friend/mechanic got very ill DP said "god i hope nothing happens to Ray, who will do the car up for the MOT?" He ticks all the boxes apart from the fact that he often lies and I've read aspergers people don't/can't lie?
Another thing happened today which is the inspiration for this thread. We were sat in a pub having a sunday roast. DP gets full quite quickly so only ate half of his, I ate most of mine. for a 'joke' he swapped the plates around so it looked like I'd left loads and he'd eaten most of his. Can people with aspergers make jokes because I've read otherwise?? When the waitress came across DP blurted out "oh it was lovely thanks!! I ate loads!!" (in keeping with his plate swapping joke). The waitress of course had no idea he'd swapped the plates so looked rather confused and said "oh right" in a 'that's nice dear' kind of way [embarrassed] I burst out laughing at her obvious confusion and my 13 year old son also saw how hilarious this was and laughed. DP had no idea why were laughing so much and so said to the waitress (he always tries to explain his jokes, even when it's not needed) "I swapped the plates, that's why they're laughing" (that wasn't why we were laughing!) and again she looked confused and said "ok".
Later in the car I said to him "do you realise why we were laughing?" and he said "yes, because I swapped the plates". I said "No, we were laughing because you really confused that poor waitress saying you'd eaten loads!" he then put on a very false laugh and said "Oh yes I see now ha ha ha ha" he sounded like a robot! So does this sound like aspergers or just poor social skills?
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Would someone with aspergers attempt a joke?
DonkeyRaddish · 15/04/2012 18:12
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