Affair recovery - moving on

[missinginaction]

Just over a year ago, my husband told me he had been having an affair and was going to leave. After a huge amount of effort, we got ourselves back on track.
When I thought he was going to leave, I kicked myself for giving up a good career to be a stay-at-home mum. I absolutely love being at home, financially we're ok but I felt I had been so stupid to become reliant on someone who, it turned out, wasn't trustworthy. So now, a year on I have been offered a full-time job and I don't know what to do. If I knew my husband was going to always be around, I would definitely prefer to be at home with the kids but I guess I've learnt I can't trust in that. I so don't want to work full-time (the job is full-time or nothing) and I feel resentful to my husband that I am in this position of having to choose peace of mind (knowing that I could manage with the kids and would have more confidence in my ability to do so) over time with the kids. What shall I do?

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Take the job and see how it goes. It could be that you decide later on to find a part-time position and it's easier to find a job when you're already employed. If you can't rely on your husband, the very worst thing you can do is stay financially dependent on him. He could easily pull the rug any time and you'll be up shit creek. If you have a job and you get fed up making a big effort, you can call the shots.