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[drxerox]

My dh is under a lot of pressure at work at the moment, but he did something this morning that really upset me and I'd like other people's reaction to it.
We have several trees at the end of the garden, one of which is dead. He told me which one it was and we agreed to get a tree surgeon round to fell it - this morning, dh brought me a cup of tea, and, when I was half awake said, 'he's taken down the wrong tree'. I said - 'well that's the one you told me you wanted removing'. DH was immediately angry with me, said 'don't start that' and couldn't see that, if he told me that he wanted that tree felling, he might have told the guy to take down the same one..just kept on saying 'well, you weren't there when I spoke to him.
I know this sounds really feeble, but he was so cross and irrational, that I was in tears by the time he left for work. I just can't stand being woken up and being argued at/with, when all I did was disagree - not in a stroppy way, but just in a 'have you considered that way'.
I know he's under pressure, but it's only a tree. He's stormed off to work, and I'm left thinking WTF. Sorry if this sounds feeble, but just feel really unhappy.

[PurplePidjin]

If this is a one off or infrequent thing, I'd be sitting him down with a cuppa tonight to a) find out what's really bothering him and b) point out that it's not acceptable for him to take his stress out on you (and I'd expect him to apologise)

If it happens often, you need to consider how he behaves towards you in general.

Fwiw, I've been with dp for two years and we've had similar incidents maybe 3 or 4 times. The cuppa option has worked and he's not repeated that behaviour again. I consider that we have a strong relationship and am not scared to order him into the gym to do some boxing training if I can see it coming