Iv spent weeks googling controlling relationships after a colleague said they were concerned about me .I have been with my partner for 2 and a half years and im sorry if im rambling .He doesnt let me have facebook , wear red , eye makeup or go out with my friends .He reallly grudges me going out at all when hes not home .(he wrks offshore)He asks loads of questions so many I feel he is checkin up on me . He used to interrogate me about past relationships and make me feel guilty .I feel very nervous around him because I never know what mood he will be in or what he will acuse me of .He shows me no trust at all .We got engaged a year ago me being stupid and thinkin he would then trust me .He recetly bought "our" house .He bought it without consulting me and is hiding thigns like how much he paid for it from me . Am I being silly or is this emotional abuse ?Theres so much he does i cant think right now .If this is abuse what would be the best way of leaving , because he works offshore im scared to upset him whens hes at work (and out of control ) so iv been pretending everythn is fine . I worry that losing me could make him really angry as i have always tiptoped round him . He is home on tuesday and i have arranged to have those two weeks off work as i dont want to be around him ..should i sit him down and tell him or wt ?iv tried approachingg the subject of goin out etc before and he just says im being a bitch . help please !thnks
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