We have been together 25 years and it hasn't been a good relationship. For 22 of those he has worked in the same place and is officially not working as of next week. I have given him all the support I could, throughout our lives together to make the best of his skills, talents, passions. I have bent over backwards to build his confidence and put him in touch with people etc in a way that you do for a good friend. I have asked him if he wants to go travelling / go on a big holiday / etc.
He refuses to make any plans. I don't know how we are going to live or what we are going to do. He talks about building work, he talks about doing an IT course, he talks about getting agency work. But he has not committed to doing anything. I've let it drift because I thought he would find his own path and I would support him, but that's not happening.
I wonder if anyone has any pearls of wisdom regarding his head-in-the-sand behaviour? We can't both put our heads in the sand. It's absolute lunacy to pretend that everything will fall into place - I have no idea what to do about any of this other than to perhaps pick up the kids, rent a flat and get housing benefit. If I don't I feel I will be living with someone that's completely unpredictable. His income and his working life was the only predictable thing about him.
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barbiewitch · 18/10/2011 14:52
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