I've posted before about trying to forgive and forget after an affair. I found out almost a year ago now and still trying to make things work. Problem is every time we finish having sex I just burst out crying. In those moments post-coital when you feel so close and vulnerable I start to think this is what he felt with her, was the sex better?, is he comparing us?, to know he was snuggled up with her with them telling each other they loved each other. All of this just rushes into my head and I cant seem to stop it. He holds me and tries to comfort me but I know it makes him feel awful. Its getting to the point where he thinks twice about initiating sex because he doesn't want to upset me. Has anyone else experienced this or have any idea how I can make it stop? It is so distressing, especially as we have made so much progress in other areas?
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