Hello,
Narc ex mil has sent me a card, and there has to be something behind this with her.
She has not seen the kids in years now, she kept coming up with excuses.
The kids don't see her son, I believe she and the ex are narc types.
Her son remarried and is expecting a baby in weeks.
Our house is sold.
I have not contacted them since the last time she found excuses to not see the children so probably a year and a half two years now.
The oldest emailed the Grandfather, I emailed him after googling him and copied her in, and she then asked him for their address, I chucked all their contact details away as they were not interested in the kids and I couldn't see the point, I would know though how to drive to their home! She wanted to send him something, she never bothered, I reminded her a few times and she didn't bother.
The kids birthday cards were late this year, I can't even remember if they were given a present. At christmas they were sent a flannel and a cheap lipgloss. The gift value has gone down and down over the years since their Dad left.
I saw all three sisters of my ex leave their husbands and I heard and saw it all, so knew what was really behind her not spending money as much money as before and giving a cheap gift, it is devaluation of you as a person in her eyes and her letting you know.
I have never sent her a thankyou card or asked the children to since the ex left, I am not that type of person, and she mentioned once how she was infuriated with me for not sending thank you cards anymore.
I personally think that the old bag is missing supply, and has been rocked by the move and the new baby?
Someone said maybe she doesn't like my replacement much?
I am going to continue to ignore, the kids aren't interested, if they are, I will sort out them having contact, as I did last time one of them had interest, I am wondering now if it was just a test and they are not interested in the grandparents at all now!
I showed the kids the card, they were as shocked as I was!
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tranquilitygardens · 07/10/2011 08:56
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