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Any solicitors out there or anyone with experience of seperation/divorce...need to know where I stand...

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Midgeroo · 05/10/2011 10:12

We've had lots of ups and downs and my husband has mentioned divorce in the past.

I am now getting a bit fed up of his mood swings and threats and I am getting to a point where I want to ask him to move out for maybe a trial seperation to start with.

I can't afford a solicitor but really want to know where I stand with the kids (do they automatically stay with the mother), House (does whoever look after the kids automatically stay there until they reach a certain age), savings etc.

He's said we'd have to sell the house but I've put a lot into it and it's the kids home so I really don't want to sell it. I would try to take it on myself but if I don't have to re-mortgage straight away this obviously helps!

Any advice would be much appreciated.

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cestlavielife · 05/10/2011 11:17

post in legal
but it all depends on all the circumstances involved
who earns what
how much mortgage is
how much equity potentially to share etcetcetc

children -start from premise of 50/50 share but depends on circumstances- may be good reasons practical etc to reside with one or other parent and just to visit with the other on set days

speak to him ask him how he proposes to do this .

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Midgeroo · 05/10/2011 11:31

Thanks, will post on legal and see what happens.

At the moment I want to find out where I stand before I confront him. Feel like he's making empty threats because he'll mention splitting up but then talk about home improvement. I find it strange you would do that if you want to leave...?

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buzzskeleton · 05/10/2011 12:49

Try the CAB or see if you can get a half-hour free initial consult with a solicitor.

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