To have had enough of BIL's GF

[PufftyMagicDragon]

Have name changed.

DB is lovely, we get on rather well and hes a nice laid back guy. His GF drives me nuts though!

She is the sort of person who does a nice thing and then immediately complains about having to do said thing (EG she will offer to take you somewhere and then when your back is turned, will bitch about having to do so). She makes no effort to attend any family gatherings unless DB is there.At first i thought it was because she was shy, but one time when she did turn up she was just plain rude and made it clear she didnt want to be there (FYI she only turned up because DB asked her to come along) don't get me wrong, her heart is in the right place but other than that she just constantly moans about DB.

Im having to restrain myself from losing my temper with her! BIL lost his temper with her a long time ago and told her off for Being rude to DSis2

Am i missing something here? or AIBU? I cant see why DB is with her unless shes a fucking saint behind closed doors

[PufftyMagicDragon]

bah, i meant DB in the title :(

[1catherine1]

Well, you can't really question why your DB loves her, it isn't really your place. I also think it is better if you ignore it and don't show him that she upsets you as this will only effect your relationship with him.

I hated my DB ExGF but he never knew. He never knew all the things she did that made my blood boil. I hated how she bought me make-up for Christmas with the comment that she thought it would be nice if I had some. I quite obviously don't wear make-up... And there was plenty of other things but that one made me want to slap her. My point is, I kept me mouth shut as I really love my DB and wouldn't want to put him in a position where he had to choose between us as quite often the gf wins.

I understand why she annoys you though.

[1catherine1]

[sigh] Obviously it is supposed to read "I kept my mouth shut", watching films and replying on MN doesn't work too well.

[FabbyChic]

Maybe she is good in the sack.

[2rebecca]

If she is just your brother's girlfriend then why would she attend his family's gatherings without him? I find the expectation that she should be bothered when her boyfriend isn't and it's his family rather bizarre.
I don't think I've ever attended any of my husband's family's stuff without him and we are married. Let her live her own life, it doesn't sound as though you like her anyway so why are you so desperate to drag her to events neither she nor your brother are bothered about attending?