Every time you go out at the weekend and stay out you make me feel like complete and utter crap.
We live fairly far away from family and friends. So, when my DH goes out for a drink etc he tends to stay over with his brother/cousin etc.
I HATE this. I hated this before we had children and shouldn't have taken it, but I did. Now we have a child and he's back into the same old pattern. Our son is one.
We don't have much money so a cab home would be too pricey. Once in a while he'll only have one drink and will drive home, but 3 weekends out of four he stays out.
He seems to think it's acceptable because we can't afford the £25 cab fare.
He's an intelligent person. I know that he can see that his actions are out of order and that his actions are one of a single person. Not a man with a partner and a child to consider. However, tonight it's much the same. He's out and will toddle home tomorrow hung over.
When I moan he tries to give me a cuddle and say ?but I love you?. I can't help thinking that just because he loves me it doesn?t mean that he can treat me like crap. Actions speak louder than words.
He is a good guy. A good Dad and has made lots of lifestyle choices to be a better man/Dad. I love him for this, but I think he's creeping back into his old ways. Out every weekend. With me spending Saturday after Saturday spent at home alone.
I feel lonely, let down, upset, rejected and basically wondering what the hell our relationship is about.
I warned him the other week not to repeat his Dad?s mistakes. Ie to treat his wife like crap and take her for granted for years only to have her leave him. I will end up walking if this carries on and he'll end up all bitter and miserable just like his Dad. He listened, but still went out and is out again this weekend.
Do you think I'm being unreasonable? If it was say once a month I wouldn't have that much of an issue. I'm quite understanding! But it's literally every weekend. How the hell do I make him realise how this makes me feel??? And more importantly how do I get him to change his priorities???
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DH stays out at least one night almost every weekend
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cvchap · 24/09/2011 19:20
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