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Asking friends to be godparents

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Monkeymaker · 10/09/2011 23:30

we would like to ask some friends to be godparents to our ds. Previously I was going to be their surrogate, but due to a health issue i was not able to fulfil that role, but went on to have another child of our own.

We are in two minds whether to ask them because 1 I know it has been hard for them when we announce we were having another child, but they find it hard with anyone and 2 is it like rubbing their nose in it by asking them or would they be offended if we didn't ask them.

We don't have a lot of options for godparents we may have to double up anyway, has anyone else done this.

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BikeRunSki · 10/09/2011 23:34

Well first of all you need to know if they are confirmed into the Church of your choice, otherwise they won't be able to do it anyway.

I don't think they'd be offended. I would n't be. I'd be flattered.

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hiccymapops · 10/09/2011 23:38

I think they'd probably be flattered. I know I would. It's our daughters christening tomorrow, and our friends next door are going to be her godparents. They had IVF a few years ago, and it didn't work out, so I know it's been very hard for them, but they're more than happy that we've asked them.

I actually nattered about it quite a bit, we really didn't have many people to chose from, and I didn't want to ask I'm case they felt they had to say yes, but I'm really glad I did, they're over the moon. I'm sure your friends would be too.

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JockTamsonsBairns · 10/09/2011 23:52

I've no direct experience of this, but I echo the other posters who suspect they'd be delighted to be asked. It sounds like they're very close friends of yours - obviously, otherwise you wouldn't be considering them for the role. In this context, perhaps you could have a frank discussion with them? I think if it was me, I'd appreciate your honesty - and the opportunity to be upfront in response to you.

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JsOtherHalf · 11/09/2011 10:34

I was honoured to be asked to be godmother to a friend's LO. We were having fertility investigations at the time too.

Ask your friends, possibly in writing -email/letter, and let them really think about it before giving their answer.