Have namechanged (cube of poo, naice ham etc.)
My partner and I are in our early twenties and have been together for several years - met in our teens, been living together for four years now. My sex drive has been going steadily downhill for years now but it's all come to a bit of a head recently.
We haven't had sex in about three weeks and last night he was pestering me about it, rolled over and went to touch me and I near as damnit flinched away and said that I didn't feel like sex - he snapped, rolled over in a huff and turned out the light. He left for work this morning without saying a word to me.
Now, while I know his behaviour is unacceptable I can kind of see his point, I don't know what the fuck is going on with me at the moment.
I've been on the contraceptive pill since I was 15 to control heavy, erratic and painful periods, and then of course also as contraception when I met him. I've tried four or five kinds now, plus the injection, and all have had unpleasant side effects (one gave me migraines, the rest persistent breakthrough bleeding). Last year after more symptoms (excess body hair, acne, tendency to weight gain) I was diagnosed with PCOS, had a scan which showed several ovarian cysts. Since then I was prescribed Yasmin which seems to have removed whatever remaining spark of sexuality I had and hasn't even had any effect on the PCOS symptoms.
Just using condoms is not an option, we did try it but had one break and had a mad dash for the MAP which I don't care to repeat.
As well as hormonal issues I think - and I feel awful for saying this - I don't particularly fancy him any more? He has gained a lot of weight since we've been together, has a large beer belly but is in total denial about it, refuses to join me in any of the outdoor activities I do or take any exercise at all. I still love him very much but no longer think 'phwoar'. I know this is unfair (though, before anyone points fingers, despite the PCOS I am the same weight as when we first met).
I've got an appointment with the doctor next week to discuss contraception yet again but the options really are running out there. I did consider the Mirena coil but the doctor refused to discuss it, saying that they only fitted them to women who had had children which I am thinking is utter bullshit but he obviously had his reasons for not recommending it to me.
In the meantime I am still spotty, hairy and completely lacking a sex drive. Help. :(
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nosexdrive · 07/09/2011 13:44
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