OK had put together and very long post and though you would be bored to death with it.
Basically, H has been a prat for many years due to him not handling being a dad and not knowing to handle stressful situations/conflicts. he automatically goes into passive aggressive behavior.
I have tried to leave a couple of times now. First time I was noweher near ready to do so. The second time, I went into panick mode (mainly due to financial issues).
This time I had decided I would leave after the dcs are back at school and my resolve has disappeared again.
H has tried hard this year to change quite a few of his behaviors and things have improved a lot (even though they are nowhere near perfect). For the first time in years, he has started to show some interest/attention (eg bringing me a cup of tea, cuddles) which i know I would relish if I was letting myself into it iyswim.
But he still can't have a conversation with me. It's like he can't even do general chichat with me, no eye contact during a meal with just the 2 of us. I know he is after sex, don't ask me how I just know. But this is something I can not face just now. It would repulse me tbh. For whatever reason, it also made me wonder if he is only making an effort because he wants sex or if the looking after sex as a way to check/ show each other love??
And still when I was looking at him yesterday I wondered how I could think of leaving him when he is trying so hard. A part of me is wanting to give him more time, more chances.
Is that such a good idea? When do you know enough is enough?
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CactusRash · 06/09/2011 10:14
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