I've been on a couple of dates with a guy I've known for about 8 months, we got on like a house on fire, but I backed off after the 2nd date, even though there were sparks between us as I was scared of getting involved with someone.
Fast forward to a month later (last weekend) and I realised how much I wanted him, I texted him to invite him over (he had sent me a message to tell me some news) as I had the house to myself and we ended up spending an amazing night together. He is the first guy I've felt this comfortable with in a long time.
We agreed way back before we even went on a date that we were both looking for something casual. For me, that means a relationship where there is never a possibility of ending up living together & I get to keep my independence. For him, I'm not sure.
The problem is that since we slept together there are all these feelings. I don't know where they have come from but I feel quite vulnerable now as if I've opened myself up to be hurt. I really like him. I think I was kidding myself as to how much.
I really thought I could separate the sex/emotion thing but apparently not.
How do I keep things in check? Before we shagged I was seriously happy just to be on my own :) Now I've gone all needy. Help!
He's been texting every day since last weekend and we are getting together again next weekend, so it's not as if I need any reassurance!!
Any sage advice?
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dating, sex & emotions....how to keep things in check?
msshapelybottom · 20/08/2011 16:54
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