when i got involved with my soon to be divorced bf i promised myself that i would not get involved with him and his ex because you never know the full story yada yada yada. well that turned out to be impossible as she is a full on nut case and i do not use that term lightly. they have been separated for nearly 2 years have 2 kids together and he seems to still be very much in her abusive thrall and it is difficult to be involved in.
he didnt tell her about me for months because of her reaction or that we are planing on moving in together but when he finally did she phoned him up screaming at him refusing to let him see the kids, she phones his family to find out if we are lying to her about what he has said to her etc.
we made plans about how to get his children use to my children and how they would see each other over the summer holidays etc so they could build up some kind of bond but he totally went back on those plans because she wasnt happy about things with out telling me leaving me with upset children.
he will sometimes sit for hours texting her trying to placate over many and varied things and says this is what his marriage was like, i point out that if he wanted to do this kind of thing he may as well just have stayed married to her and i am just wondering if i am being to sensitive, if this is how it works or i am i in a relationship with 2 people my lovely boyfriend and his exwife.
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good bf, bad ex.
chevronone · 12/08/2011 09:10
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