I've name changed for this.
I came home from swimming with my DS yesterday and my husband met us at the door, visibly distressed, and told me he was a gambling addict and had lost £11,000 since Christmas playing flamming internet poker.
I went back to work about 4 months ago and in the run up to that spent quite a bit of time drawing up a new budget so we've talked about money a lot over the last few months. He's had ample opportunity to tell me whats going on but he didn't.
We had planned to pay off our debts, save up a deposit and move back home to be nearer our families. Everything he's told me has been lies, he makes more money than I knew, he's taken out a loan behind my back, he's got an other credit card I didn't know about. As the first step in clearing our debts we released money from the savings to pay off the credit card I did know about, its not been payed off either. I've still got a student loan to pay back, that was supposed to be the next item on the list and once that was gone we were going to try for an other baby, so thats not going to happen either.
He was in such desperation that a very dear friend gave him £2000 (!) to help sort it out and he gambled that away too.
Losing the money is gutting but its the lies that are killing me. I really don't want to be a single parent and I don't want to break up my baby's family. I still love my husband but I can't trust him. That he frittered away money that a friend gave him to help us makes me feel sick. Currently I'm staying with him but a seperation is still in the picture. We're of to CAB today to see what we can salvage from this mess and he's going to GA on Thursday.
Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do? Did it work out?
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My husband lost £11,000 playing poker, everything's shite
Redeyedandblotchy · 09/08/2011 06:06
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