I'm interested in others opinions on this one.
A couple I am close to have been married for ten years are having problems. They've two kids together.
Basically she's desperate to move to this cliquey little village full of affluent types. I've been over their finances with him and the blunt truth is they cannot afford it. Not unless they completely change their lifestyle which would never happen as she absolutely MUST have 5* Caribbean holidays, convertible cars etc. etc. And not just one holiday a year either. They must have at least 3-4. This is despite two quite modest salaries.
He said he'd move if it meant SO much to her and he's more than happy to forsake the holidays or sell the cars. She said she's not sure as she thinks she's financially better off without him because she'd get full tax credits, child maintenance and thinks that he should take on the current house (virtually no equity) and all their debts (about £15k).
She'd spotted this little 2 bed cottage which is double their current mortgage that was available to rent. Her plan was to move in there. However, now the house has gone, she's now being nicer to him.
Am I right to think that if your wife is happy to dump you if she can get more money from tax credits and maintenance that your marriage is effectively over and anything you do from thereon is simply delaying the inevitable?
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niceguy2 · 05/08/2011 12:40
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