This is a recurring theme with my friend of 30 years.
She off loaded today about things and although I sympathised, and can see her point, I can also see her DHs. In the past when I have seen both sides, and said so, she has got very upset and we have rowed.
I just wonder how many of you speak the truth, and how many of you bite your tongue?
She's in a marriage that is not working in many ways but has decided to stay put. The basic problem is that he earns loads, they have no money worries, and spends most of his time overseas with work, whilst she runs the house in the UK. In addition she looks after her elderly mum and is her main carer.
She is resentful of the fact that he does not seem to appreciate what she does to keep the house ticking over, and she also manages all the finances. He does nothing- no DIY or anything- he simply works very hard.
The upside for her is that she doesn't need to work, has no kids, and manages to fit in quite a few holidays with him, her friends, has money to spend on what she likes, and do what she likes apart from what I've described above.
He thinks she has the life of Riley and she thinks he is ungrateful because her managing the house etc allows him to live like a single man with no responsibility- except bringing home the money.
I think there is some truth in both these scenarios- but obviously she wants me to side with her and it's hard.
Should I just keep my mouth shut and simply listen?
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loyalfriend · 05/08/2011 11:50
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