I find myself getting really annoyed with my mum. She has always been critical but lately it's starting to drive me mad.
She'll come into my house and start looking around, she doesn't even try to hide it. "this surface could use a wipe"...."what the HELL'S going on here?" (pile of washing maybe)...."your lawn needs mowing, cant you even just weed the flowerbeds?"...ridiculous things. I could perhaps understand her horror if she was a houseproud person but she isn't! My house is cleaner than hers in general, just not as tidy (two kids, six pets...well, 7 but the fish is pretty neat ). Her comment about the garden was particularly uncalled for as she knows I love my garden and have always kept it nice until I started having problems with my hands and legs a couple of months ago. She KNOWS I cant physically do it at the moment. She also had a strop at me earlier in the week for walking too slowly as she "thought i'd have started my tablets by now" (I'd been taking them for one day...they had been prescribed the day before which she knew, she was with me!).
A few days ago we were having a conversation over the phone. I asked her what time we were meeting up, cue a rant about why it was stupid for her to go home first and she'd come straight here after an appointment. I said I never suggested she go home first, I agreed it made more sense to come straight here. She said I was trying to start an argument! She does this all the time.
She is so dramatic about everything, seems to hear something completely different to what i'm actually saying. As much as I hate to say it, i'm starting to wonder if she does it on purpose for attention. I've noticed recently that a lot of telephone conversations we've had have been strange...her answers dont really bear any relation to what i'm saying, so at her end of the phone, to whoever is in the same room (her husband) it seems i'm having a go at her when i'm actually not. He is now being frosty with me because of it. I just feel totally bullied, confused and miserable about the whole situation. Even ds has had enough of it, she did the same to him tonight. The puppy had been sick on the sofa so he was taking the covers off for me to wash, I nipped upstairs..she comes in and interrogates ds on what the hell he's doing and why the dog is in his crate. Ds tells her, it's just for 5 minutes because the puppy hangs onto the inner cushions by his teeth and tries to rip the filling out of them! I then hear him tell her (in a weary tone) not to "start" (he's never said that before). I get downstairs, she tells me my dog is wild because he's "locked up all the time" (he's not locked up all the time...in fact he's been in his crate for hours now but the door is open, he puts himself to bed at a certain time and that's that! ). She is constantly making assumptions and hurling accusations based on nothing at all and giving me a good bollocking in advance, it's stupid niggling little things every day. If I try to talk about it, i'm "trying to cause an argument", if I dont I end up losing my temper then she cries and i'm a terrible daughter.
I dont need her constant picking. She is great in other ways, I love her dearly and dont want a huge falling out but I need to sort this. How do I go about it when everything I do is wrong?
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