Right Mumsnetters I need your help! Sorry if this is disjointed... opretty much how I am feeling
My H has admitted to having an affair for the past 7 months when I challened him. He says he wants to stay but has made very little effort in making me feel like he really wants to. He still see's the OW (they work together) and is still engaging in an emotional relationship with her. I know they at least fantasise about being together sexually again and suspect that it may have happened although he denies the latter.
He does not really engage with me at the moment (very little talking, no physical contact at all, no emotional awareness of how I am feeling) and I am left feeling lost and in limbo - waiting for him to really start working at saving us which he says he wants or to decided that it's her he wants.
I've had enough of sitting around waiting for him to decide like a meek puppet.
If he wants to work then fine I am ready to look at myself and my behaviour and change things if he is but in the mean time I need to do things that get me out of the house and rebuilding my confidence.
So wise Mumsnetters I'm looking for suggestions of things I can do on a weekend for a couple of hours or on an evening or two that:
(a) get me out of the house
(b) get me talking to new people (and preferably not about babies/kids)
A bit about me, I'm a SAHM to a now nearly 3 year old and I am 7 months pregnant so this limits what I can do!
Ideas I have at the moment are a short adult education course in something or volunteering in the local community. I'm also thinking I need to start pampering myself so I might look at spa things even though I might have to do these on my own.
Am hoping you all might add suggestions to my list!
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Clawing back my self esteem - husbands affair is making me feel guily and worthless
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TonicBlue · 23/07/2011 21:26
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