history ; been with dh for 28 years. Have 4 girls of differing ages. Found out he was bisexual about 4 years ago, he was "very happy" I'd found out, i was less so. Initially it made little difference to our sex life, which had always been good.
we haven't had sex now for about 18 months, i've made a few attempts to initiate it, but always rejected, he won't discuss it. He rarely touches me if he can help it - i got a peck on the cheeks today but only because my mother was there and it would have looked really odd if he hadn't under the circumstances.
He is frequently cold to me, enjoys put downs, does very little around the house/with the kids despite us both working full time, although he does pay for a cleaner for 4 h/week. He earn 6x what i do, no shared income just a joint account he pays a fixed amount into - i frequently fret about cost of petrol for work in the last week of the month, he buys new coats at £200 +.
He is away atm, would usually ring me, instead i only got a text, i replied to it immediately, no reply - thought he may at least would have wanted to speak to kids.
It looks awful all written down, I know i should go really, but i can't afford to and i really don't want to upset the children who are quite happy, and appear to be unaware of any issues - i do tend to cover for him to spare their feelings.
I've thought for a while i would leave in 2 years - second child leaves school then, and is at a geographically distant school to the others so logistically would make sense to wait until then, but more recently i've been thinking i can't bear to wait until then, although i know i will have to.
sorry for epic post, it's been really cathartic writing it down.
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think my relationship is totally f**ked, do i wait it out?
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deeplyhackedoff · 17/07/2011 23:33
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