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My husband and I have a 2 year old daughter. My husband has a niece who is 9 years old and ever since his niece has been born she has spent a lot of time with my in-laws. Every weekend she is there from Friday evening to Sunday evening and she goes there during the week too. I think my PIL have sort of taken over a little from the start, but I think DN's parents (now split ) were glad to hand her over sometimes too, although I'd sometimes speak to her mum (when she and BIL were together) and ask where's DN and she would say 'Oh, MIL has got my baby again'.
Before I became pregnant with my DD, I was wary that this was not going to happen with our child too.
We do get on well with MIL, but I feel increasing pressure to let her have my DD at times. We are always glad to see her when she visits and she is welcome any time. We've tried to be fair in that she sees our DD as much as my mum and my DD loves both her grandmothers equally. I've noticed that she tries to ask me rather than my husband as I will be more polite whereas he will be quite blunt I guess. Sometimes I'd like some extra time to ourselves but I'm scared that if we give an inch she will take a mile. I just don't want my daughter to turn into my niece iyswim.
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lottieladybird · 14/07/2011 17:03
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