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Divorcing a Narcissist - useful reading material?

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MollFlounders Wed 13-Jul-11 15:00:21

Hi there, I haven't posted for ages but had a huge amount of support on this board in 2009/2010 in relation to leaving my soon-to-be-ex husband (he is refusing to get divorced on any basis other than consent, so I've had to wait the 2 years- up on about 7 August - hurray!).

Anyway, he has (predictably) been giving me a huge amount of trouble in relation to DD, turning 3 in October. Just before Christmas, he started shared residence proceedinngs. While I had been avoiding mediation, I organised to go the week before his Court conciliation appointment- which meant that the judge dismissed his application, which was a huge relief.

Since then, we have been in mediation- and it is awful. H lies, twists, manipulates- everything you would expect. The mediators are very good, and I have been very frank about the nature of our relationship, and I know they take that into account.

The reason for posting is that I'm very interested in reading some helpful / supportive material on going through divorce proceedings / custody issues with a narcissist or borderline personality disorder sufferer.

Any suggestions would be appreciated. And any views on: Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Bill Eddy, Randy Kreger).

I've got loads of support in my life these days- fantastic lawyer, wonderful GP, amazing family, lovely new man, and my dearest of dear DDs. But I'd find it helpful to have some reading material.

I hope everyone who helped me or read my old threads is well, happy and healthy.

Thanks very much.

MollFlounders Wed 13-Jul-11 15:01:41

Oops, double posted. Clearly I'm out of practice..... blush

MollFlounders Wed 13-Jul-11 15:05:01

Help - does anyone know how I get this rogue second thread deleted?

ItsMeAndMyPuppyNow Wed 13-Jul-11 15:52:27

I don't have the information you seek since I am only divorcing my Narc/BPD/abuser now myself, but since you've already found a book that purports to cover the topic you want, why not just go for it?

Good luck!

Waver Mon 05-Sep-11 10:40:34

Did you get the book? I had a look at reviews on Amazon and while its overall rating was high, some reviewers called it 'inaccurate and dangerous'. Seems to deny the narcissist has responsibility? Anyway I'm glad you are surrounded by support now.

This is my first ever post here; I have joined specifically for support with my own narcissist and the title of your question could have been my own wording! I'll post a question when I summon up the oomph to be concise rather than a novel-length rant... y'know... ;)

Tried to look up your other posts on this subject, but I can't work out how to search by thread author or go to someone's public profile. I'll get there I expect.

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