Hi there, I haven't posted for ages but had a huge amount of support on this board in 2009/2010 in relation to leaving my soon-to-be-ex husband (he is refusing to get divorced on any basis other than consent, so I've had to wait the 2 years- up on about 7 August - hurray!).
Anyway, he has (predictably) been giving me a huge amount of trouble in relation to DD, turning 3 in October. Just before Christmas, he started shared residence proceedinngs. While I had been avoiding mediation, I organised to go the week before his Court conciliation appointment- which meant that the judge dismissed his application, which was a huge relief.
Since then, we have been in mediation- and it is awful. H lies, twists, manipulates- everything you would expect. The mediators are very good, and I have been very frank about the nature of our relationship, and I know they take that into account.
The reason for posting is that I'm very interested in reading some helpful / supportive material on going through divorce proceedings / custody issues with a narcissist or borderline personality disorder sufferer.
Any suggestions would be appreciated. And any views on: Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Bill Eddy, Randy Kreger).
I've got loads of support in my life these days- fantastic lawyer, wonderful GP, amazing family, lovely new man, and my dearest of dear DDs. But I'd find it helpful to have some reading material.
I hope everyone who helped me or read my old threads is well, happy and healthy.
Thanks very much.
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Divorcing a Narcissist - useful reading material?
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MollFlounders · 13/07/2011 15:00
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