I've been with my DP for 8 months now and its going well. The issue is his dad... there seems to be something seriously wrong with their relationship!! Every little mishap turns into a heated argument to the point where DP will get kicked and have things thrown at him including plates etc. Sometimes he gets kicked out and I offer for him to come and stay with me. It can start from simple thing like if DP stays out a little late. I suspect that something else has been going on but I've not been told anything. When he tells me, I have no idea what to say because he has no intentions of leaving his home or his family although he does see that he's being abused.
He made a random comment last week saying that he wouldnt leave his home unless he was moving somewhere with me. I have a child (not his) and due to that fact that we are still in the early days of our relationship I think this is inappropriate. I also said we should only do that if we both get our careers on track so that we could pay for the things we need... may have sounded a little cold but I just don' t think I should be making hasty decisions because of his dad. I don't know what to do or say but I really think he needs to get out of this situation. I've told him he can stay with me whenever he needs to but I cant offer him anything permanent. I know it must be hard for him to choose to leave but I'm worried about what dealing with this constantly could do to him....
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AIBU to think DP should just leave?
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smallmotherbigheart · 10/07/2011 23:48
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