I've re-written this a few times already because no matter how I write it there doesn't seem to be much sense in it but here's the main points of what happened.
I've been with my DP on and off for around 6 years (together properly for the last 18 months). He works away which is fine, he always has done so that's not the issue.
Today he tells me he has some things to take back to an ex and they've arranged to meet at her place but insists he will just be dropping things off and leaving, he won't be entering the house or having a catch up chat or anything. That's when I thought it was weird, I know he stays good friends with most of his ex's so I asked why he wouldn't be hanging around and he replied because "I don't trust myself around her".
To cut out the argument that ensued the main point I am now making is how the hell am I meant to trust him if he can't even trust himself?
He tried to explain but didn't seem to understand my point at all. He thinks that I should trust him after all this time but the reason we broke up the first time was because he cheated when I was too sick to do anything about it. And that's something that really hurt and I don't think I will ever fully forgive him for that.
What worries me most now is that he describes this ex as the only person who can wrap him around her finger. Then goes on to say "But I can be trusted by you, I just don't trust myself".
I don't know if I'm asking for advice or just looking to see if this makes sense to anyone else. Maybe I'm over reacting? I feel like banging my head against a brick wall.
Am I going crazy or am I right to feel weird about all this?
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He says he cant be trusted but thinks I should trust him??
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Fluffeh · 08/07/2011 19:13
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