I'm so confused! I love my DH deeply but I'm starting to think he is not the man I thought he was.
Long story will try and keep it short!
Was on my own with DD now 9 for 6 years. 3 years ago I met him through a mutual friend he is VERY hardworking, really funny and generally a great guy.
The last 3 years hve been a whirlwind of moving in together, getting married and building our dream house which we have just moved into.
The problem is that he thinks that working hard and providing us with a good quality of life is sufficient. I don't. I think we should be spending more quality time as a family. He thinks we do that enough and any time I try to broach the subject (or anything else that is bothering me) he gets very defensive saying that he couldn't be doing more for us blah blah blah!
He was basically brought up by his grandparents IMHO while both his parents worked very hard to provide him and his siblings with a very good standard of living. As a result he is quite un-emotional and can't deal with me when I'm upset about anything which as you can imagine makes talking about things difficult.
He now wants to have a baby of our own. He would still want me to work while I would have to be at home with the child until it started school (I did this with my DD). We never really disscussed having kids in gret depth before we got married (idiot I hear you all say). But I'm worried that when I tell him I'm having no more kids cos of our differences of opinion on work, quality time etc it will be the end of us. We have only been married a year!
He's changed since we got married (maybe they all do) but now all he seems to want to do is work, golf or watch T.V. Moaning about how tired he is is also a fave pastime of his. I'm tired too I work part time, do all the house hold chores and worry (maybe too much, he thinks so) about our DD.
He never wants to socialise any more or do any thing else with me. He barely listens when I talk to him.
I'm making him sound awful when really hes not but I'm so frustrated at the moment!
I'm feeling kinda lost right now and am always on the verge of tears. Guess I'm looking for advice/reassurance.
Anybody got any?
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ForeverMum · 07/07/2011 21:03
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