She wants help, she needs help, she has asked for help but she doesn?t like it and is making helping her difficult. Her kitchen is a mess. It is old and tatty and needs replacing. She wants it replaced and has said so. My DH will install a new kitchen for her. His only condition is that her kitchen is properly tidy (ie all work surfaces cleared) before he starts.
The problem is that she has an enormous amount of stuff. She has downsized a couple of times but has never reduced the quantity of possessions. There isn?t a clear space in her kitchen. We have tried to help her reduce the quantity but each time we are met with obstruction and arguments. Out of date tins of food are still fine to eat even though she has multiple duplicates (how many tins of chestnuts or lychees does one person need?). She comes from another time and has a special tool/pan/knife/spoon for every possible job. This would be fine in a big kitchen but she doesn?t have a big kitchen, she has a normal sized one.
I am worried that the way she lives now is going to harm her health both physically and mentally. How do I get her to let go, de-clutter and get organised? Efforts so far have failed.
Are there any answers out there please?
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How can I help my mum?
Nomenclature · 30/06/2011 20:17
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