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Planning on leaving very soon, have I forgotten anything??

(24 Posts)
BlueViolet Sun 26-Jun-11 22:12:39

I planning on leaving for a refuge soon. He isnt happy about a few things ive done and although he currently isnt speaking to me I can feel something brewing so I think leaving is going to be sooner rather than later.

So I just need to check if I've thought of everything to do before we go.

I've got birth certificates and my marriage certificate
Copies of insurance policies, mortgage statement and bank statements. I've also nabbed a copy of his last p60.
I've got a months worth of the prescription meds I need.
I've emailed all my precious photos to my sister.
I've got a payg phone with some credit on it. Bit paranoid about taking my old phone incase he can use it to trace me somehow.
I've got the kids a nice ruck sack each , told them and dh they were for school in September, but really on the morning we go I am going to tell them they can bring whatever toys they can fit into them.
There is a suitcase on top of our wardrobe that I am going to have to quickly fill with clothes fir Dc and me. Going to be a struggle managing a buggy and suitcase though.
God I'm sick with nerves. Can't believe I'm going to do this.
Is there anything else I need to do or take with us?

BlueViolet Sun 26-Jun-11 22:14:36

Oh also tomorrow I'm going to go and open a new bank account in my name only, will get cb paid into their instead of joint account.

fivegomadindorset Sun 26-Jun-11 22:16:25

That sounds orgainised, do you knwo where you are going? Is there anyone on here who could pick you all up and drop you off?

MOSP Sun 26-Jun-11 22:16:34

You have thought of loads. Well done and good luck. Come back and let us know how it went when you can.

PrinceHumperdink Sun 26-Jun-11 22:17:01

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PrinceHumperdink Sun 26-Jun-11 22:18:40

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GreatGooglyMoogly Sun 26-Jun-11 22:19:08

Children's red books?

BlueViolet Sun 26-Jun-11 22:19:12

Don't know exactly where I'm going. Dh's work is unpredictable and he has a habit of taking days off unannounced or working from home. I'm going to have to call WA on the day we actually leave

BlueViolet Sun 26-Jun-11 22:20:07

Thanks for link. No passports but red books is a good idea.

GypsyMoth Sun 26-Jun-11 22:29:57

childrens pillowcases!
dvd's

TimeForMeIsFree Sun 26-Jun-11 22:30:07

Sweetheart, the refuge will come get you. They sent a mini bus for me so I managed to take loads of my stuff. I took as much as I could because I knew he would trash what I left behind. WA are so in tune with everything you need to do, they will help you all they can.

Good luck with everything, I will be thinking of you x

hellospoon Sun 26-Jun-11 22:49:57

when you open a new bank account you will need to have the letters sent to an address, have you got somewhere you can get them sent to?

Also when you decide to leave, you say your H is unpredictable in is working times, So i would do a test, how far away is his work? when your getting ready to go ring his work phone, make something up that you need to ask. That way you know you have x amount of time to go.

PrinceHumperdink Sun 26-Jun-11 22:55:18

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readywithwellies Sun 26-Jun-11 22:56:36

What about memories like first tooth, drawings, handprints?? Maybe post them to your sister?

Jemma1111 Sun 26-Jun-11 22:58:06

Op, just want to say good luck and good for you for having the strength to leave what is obviously a bad situation.

This will be the first step towards you giving yourself and your kids a better life !

PrinceHumperdink Sun 26-Jun-11 23:08:18

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lubeybooby Sun 26-Jun-11 23:16:46

I know how terrifying it is, but you won't ever regret it. Respect and a big hug to you, sounds like you have it all covered. Good luck!

HedleyLamarr Sun 26-Jun-11 23:27:24

If you do call him from your new mobile make sure you put 141 in front of his number so he can't pester you. Crossed fingers for you.

Maelstrom Sun 26-Jun-11 23:30:37

Take your old phone even if it is just to have it off. You don't want him ringing all of your friends with it.

want2sleep Sun 26-Jun-11 23:46:43

yes take old phone so you can log abusive texts he sends you..also if he can text you he might not look for you iygwim! As he feels he still has contact.

Only problem is if he gets Private detective they may be able to trace mobile? You will need to either change email addresses or not log on as that can be traced too. Or log on from a computer that IP address cannot be located. ? internet cafe may know more about this or google it?

photos and school memories of dc ie reports/first picture they drew to post on to sister too. Good luck and well done for being so organised and giving your dc and you a better future...it is hard and you are very very bravesmile

cosysocks Sun 26-Jun-11 23:56:46

Just to say good luck x

LeaveYourDignityAtTheDoor Mon 27-Jun-11 00:34:18

good luck x

M0naLisa Mon 27-Jun-11 00:49:37

Good luck x

Awomancalledhorse Mon 27-Jun-11 01:19:42

Have you got photo id (for opening the account) on you?
Are you going to buy toiletries when you've gone?
Is there any important mail yet to arrive, that you could get redirected to your sisters/friends address? (don't need to do this right away, obv).

Good luck.

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