I may sound like a terrible friend, which is why I'm posting here and not saying this to her.
My friend started a flirting relationship with her married colleague a year or so ago, it has since progressed to 'friends with benefits', to a full blown affair. She is single, he is married.
It's none of my business what she decides to do or not to, she knows I'm not approving of her affair, but I also don't force my opinions on her, she's a grown up.
My problem is listening to her talk about them, how much in love they are and honestly, everything that comes out of her mouth is so cliched. His wife doesn't understand him, they don't have sex since the baby was born, he's only with her for the baby, she doesn't work so he has to support her, he loves my friend more, she's perfect for him, he'll leave his wife but he can't at the moment ...
I want to scream at her "HE WILL NEVER LEAVE!" but I know I can't. What can I say without making her feel like crap, like she's being used? I don't really engage in the conversations about him, but that doesn't stop her talking. I'm going to have to ask her to not talk to me about him aren't I?
Also, is it really my place to say anything? She's my friend, I don't want to see her hurt, but like I said she's a grown up and it's none of my business.
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I can't listen to friend in affair relationship without wanting to scream
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BibiThree · 22/06/2011 10:27
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