Okay this is probably daft but It's playing on my mind and I just need to get it out I think.
Yesterday I was at my parents house (myself and DP are splitting up, although I'm not really sure if that's even what I really want, another thread though sorry). I was speaking to my mother about how if I ever have children I'm going to push them to achieve something in life as I frankly feel like I haven't achieved the things I should have. She then asked "Did we not push you enough as a teenager?", I said on reflection that they probably hadn't if I was being honest. My mothers response was " Well you were impossible to approach when you were a teenager, I literally didn't know how to handle you"
It's made me feel really bad tbh. I wasen't a wild, drug taking teen but I did have problems. I started self harming when I was 15. I thought I had hidden this from my parents but my mother revealed in an argument last year that she had known about it. I also had eating disorders and a completely unhealthy obsession with a rock star who disappeared when I was 16. Something that totally shattered my already fragile state of mind and insane as it sounds I don't think I've ever 100% recovered. My mother will often say "You changed when you were 16, I have no idea what happened". To this day I can't tell her as it sounds such an insane thing for a 32 year old to come out with.
I don't even know where I'm really going with this post actually, I just feel really sad I suppose for my f**ked up teenage years. I've spent years minimising it all but I'm starting to realise just how bad they were. Nobody eve really tried to help me. I have scars all over both forearms that I will carry for ever and feel that my parents really let me down by not helping me.
I know I'm an adult now and need to get over it but it's just made me feel really sad.
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"I didn't know how to speak to you when you were a teenager"- Am I to blame??
MilkandWine · 18/06/2011 07:47
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