Long history, but I'll try to be brief.
DH and I have been married for 5 years, no DCs yet. We are blissfully happy, he is the most wonderful man and I love him with my whole heart.
But for some reason- I truly don't know why- I am attracted to someone else and I can't stop thinking about him and I wish more than anyhting that I could stop. I have tried thinking about my DH and doing somethign nice for DH when the OM pops into my head but its getting so frequent now
To make matters worse, the OM is my friend's DH, and my DH's friend, if that makes sense. Basically the 4 of us socialise together, we see them at least every fortnight.
I have often thought (and other people have hinted) that the OM has feelings for me- hes mde a few drunken passes at me and once told me he wished he had met me before he met his DW. I know, a real catch, eh?
So WTF am I attracted to him? Is it attraction? I know I would never, ever cheat on DH, and the times when he has made a pass at me I have run away (so mature of me! ) and not given him any indication whatsoever that I would be up for an affair or anything of that nature. But yet when I go to my friends' house I find myself hoping that he will be there. I find myself caring what he thinks about things and when i get a text/facebook message (innocent- usually about the 4 of us mettig up)from him my heart jumps a little. Which I hate.
I really don't know what to do. If it was anyone else I could go cold turkey and just never see him again, but with the situation we have it would be impossible to do without telling my friend why and DH why.
Any advice appreciated.
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I can't stop thinking about another man and it is making me so bloody miserable I don't know what to do.
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musthide · 23/05/2011 11:46
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