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divorce, death, and grandparents

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jasper · 25/09/2003 22:41

Tom or anyone, can you helpwith this?
A friend with a 2yo daughter is going through a tough divorce.
One of her fears is that if she dies prematurely her parents will never see her daughter again because her daughter would go to live with her dad ( which my friend thinks is right and proper) and he hates her parents and is nasty and vindictive and would not allow them to see their grandaughter.
Can she set any legal arrangement in place to ensure her mum and dad would still see plenty of her daughter under these circumstances?
Could she get a parental responsibility agreement (order?) set up right now, naming her parents without her exhusband's consent(which he would not give) ?
She lives in Scotland.
Many thanks.

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waterbaby · 26/09/2003 10:51

Sorry Jasper - no great advice, but I'm sure that there must be a way. We're reviewing our wills next week and if you have not had a conclusive answer by then I'm happy to ask for you - we're in England but they might know. If her parents are nearby and her ex isn't, I think there is someway of geting a responsibility order or similar even without consent - a friend had this situation, and was desperate that should she not be around for any reason, someone could sign the hospital forms etc... A friend who is a magistrate recently dealt with a case where the mother had gone to prison - the grandparents did get some kind of visiting order/rights etc...

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GRMUM · 26/09/2003 11:37

Jasper I've often wondered about this from another standpoint.As you know i live abroad and have often thought of making a will specifying my wish that my children would visit my family in uK at least once a year if anything happened to me. My husband believes very strongly that they should have regular contact with my side of the family so I don't see it as something that he would ever not do (IYSWIM) but I would be happier if it was written down as a specific wish of mine. eg in the awful situation of something happening to both of us.

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robinw · 27/09/2003 08:04

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jasper · 29/09/2003 23:05

off to check out that link - thanks all.
If anyone else can add anything please do.
My friend is really vexed about this - poor love, she's only 23 .