Need to pull out of buying house today- please hold my hand/give me a kick up the arse?!

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Things have got messy quickly.
Put house up for sale and it sold v.quickly- great we were looking able to buy a new build in my favourite area so we accepted knowing the timescale would work as lady buying ours is expecting.
Except we lost the new build it was ok as long as we found something else quickly- we found a semi- detached doer upper in a nice village but not my ideal location we have friends there good schools Etc all good.
Expect it's not- the house is too small really living room tiny,but I could compromise as it was a good location but then people were telling me about the parking issues near school (police now involved due to all the trouble) and I joined a fb group for village there's major issues with antisocial behaviour esp near the house im buying.
There's too many compromises I need to pull out of purchase.
I feel like utter shit as the lady is not long lost her DH but I feel physically ill at the thought of moving there I can't do it I've got two young children I wanted to move somewhere 'better' for them and this isn't it.
I'm making the call this morn.
Selling is going to be really upset and my buyer won't be happy either unless I can find something suitable quickly :(

[ToDuk]

It's really really tough but you don't have a choice really. You can't end up living somewhere you will be unhappy for the sake of the other lady. House buying and selling is always fraught with risks and she must know that too.

[gingerdad]

Can you not rent till you find the right one.

[TheNumberfaker]

Could you go into a rental to give you time to find somewhere new?
You can't move somewhere that you're scared to bring your kids up in!

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Don't think I'd be up for renting there's not much choice in the villages we'd be looking at. Although it would solve my problem re: pissing my buyers off- more awkward as found out after I'm friend with buyers sister I didn't realise who it was at first :(

[Lighteningirll]

Please don't go into rental it's just means extra expense and upset you just have to do it it's not your fault but you can't buy that house, that you don't want to live in, just so you don't upset a stranger or anyone actually.

[ExtraHotLatteToGo]

It's a shame for the others involved, but you aren't doing it on a whim and you have to put yourself and your children first in this situation. It's far too big a life decision to put strangers first. I'd explain exactly what's happened and ask that they tell your buyer the details and how sorry you are.

It'll be ok 💐🍫

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Ok told my agent and solicitors but the agent I'm buying from works p/t and starts at 9.30 argh need to get it over and done with :(

[JT05]

You are clearly a sensitive, kind person, but you should not feel bad about this. In the past we've had people pull out of buying our houses and I'm sure they didn't give it another thought!

Hope it all works out.

[QOD]

[Wishfulmakeupping]

Thank you all- the call went better than I expected the lady's agent was very reassuring and told me she could understand my reasons and would pass on my apology to the seller herself.

[cruusshed]

Well done. Lucky escape. Dont feel guilty - feel relieved.

[ExtraHotLatteToGo]

Sorry, I missed your updates. I'm glad it went well.

Good luck.