My child is 4.5 and started school in September. She's abit of a shy anxious character. She doesn't tend to cry unless she's really hurt or sad. If she's nervous she tends to just go quiet. I knew before she started she was going to take some time as she does struggle to relax and become herself. For the first term of school she was quiet and struggling to take in all the new routine. She doesn't struggle with routines changing but there's lots of things to remember like, where to put book bags in, what colour team she's in etc. They described her as a gorgeous lovely little girl who needed some help to come out of her shell and get involved more. They said they hoped In time she would start to master the routine.
I asked Tuesday how she was doing. The teacher sort of did a mmm ahhh yes she's ok, a little bit better, still needing lots of reminders. Ok I said. Hopefully we are getting there slowly. The main thing is she's happy, enjoying school, talking about her friends etc.
Yesterday I took her down to school and I was pulled to one side. Asked to get her ears and eyes tested. I asked why and they said she's still not taking in the routine, she's struggling to understand listening sometimes and they will ask her to do something and she will go and do something else.... They continued she's now gone lively and they are having to tell her to stop doing things. Basically her concentration isn't great and she's almost seeing it as she's at nursery still. The worst thing though is she hit someone yesterday. My child who is shy and very timid hit someone. To say I was shocked was an understatement. She hasn't got it in her usually and this is a first. I absolutely agree she is struggling to grasp that she needs to follow instructions and learn to find somewhere in the middle. She has gone from quiet to excited and giddy.
I do think we are in an awkward position now as they weren't happy with her being quiet and now she's confident it's also an issue. Agghhh.
I've suggested some ideas. They are reading something up this weekend to try find some ideas on how to help. I'm feeling abit shocked that they need to read up on stuff as they must get kids every year slower than others to shine. She's not particularly being a horror but she is being a little mischievous now. I know it needs nipping in the bud but ill be honest I'm anxious about sending her next week. How the heck do you tell a four year old to stop being loud but don't be quiet either. Obviously she has been punished for hitting. I have banned her from watching Tele this weekend and no chocolate or biscuits. I've told her that I don't want to ever hear she has hit someone again. Behaviour wise though. I'm so stuck on if she is a problem or if she's a normal four year old. These are the only issues she's has. Shes reached all milestones fine, she has good speech, I overall feel she is not as ready as the average child. I just feel abit nervous about the upcoming months and in terrified she will end up with no friends or social skills. They did say her number work has been good this week and I've noticed her writing is coming along too.
Any reassurance? X
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Join our Primary Education forum to discuss starting school and helping your child get the most out of it.
Primary education
DD is not settling
24 replies
Madaboutthem2 · 23/11/2019 08:56
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.