As well as the usual reward systems at our junior school like house points, certificates, teacher's star of the day for something exceptional etc, our school also has a weekly reward called the respect award. It's given for being kind, respectful and generally nice, helpful to others etc.
It's like a small trophy and the child gets to take it home for the week on a Friday.
It's not the teacher who chooses the recipient though, they ask one child at random to choose who they think should get the award. It can be that a child chooses their friend, or someone who let them borrow their rubber, the reasons can be very simple as they're 7-8 year olds.
The issue I have is that the teacher has said a small minority will not receive the award. The reason given is that there aren't enough weeks in the school year for all 34/35 children in a class to each "have a turn". So out of that many kids in a class, only 4 or 5 will not receive the award by the end of the year (in a few weeks time).
It's got the 7 children left in our class that haven't received this award yet worried they'll be one of the very few who don't get it, a girl and boy of 7/8 were both in tears when it was given out the other day. They're desperate each week now to be "chosen". Some other children have said you have to do this or that for me otherwise I won't choose you if I get asked by the teacher. These children think if they don't get this award it means they're not kind, respectful etc and that the other children don't like them. It just seems really harsh!
Is this a usual type of award / reward in primary schools? It doesn't seem to be the fairest when so few get left out, don't they all deserve a chance to be shown they're "respected"? One little boy has ADHD and hasn't received it, he is very kind hearted but is quite isolated because the others don't understand his impulses and reactions that are part of his ADHD. How is that going to make him feel if he doesn't get chosen? It isn't very inclusive and the school are supposed to be aware of things like self esteem / confidence building, I guess it's mental health. It just seems wrong to me. Or is this a normal type of reward in junior schools, and it's not a concern to a school that a few will never receive it based on how popular they are?
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Taffy85 · 24/06/2019 09:54
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