DD is 8 (Y4) and at an excellent but very big state school with three forms. She has very high-functioning autism - this is not at all obvious to others, a hidden disability so to speak, as she is actually very 'sociable' and highly articulate. It manifests itself as generalised anxiety , difficulties reading social cues, navigating friendships/relationships can be challenging for her. There are no behavioural concerns at school whatsoever and until this year, she has generally been happy at school. She does not require any dedicated SEN support. However, she is increasingly tearful at home and not as enthusiastic about school. I've spoken to her teachers and they are adamant that DD is happy. But I believe her struggles relate to playtime/friendships so are not necessarily being observed by the same teachers. She is late August-born and bright. Many of her class mates have autumn/winter birthdays. My DD looks and is so much younger than them emotionally, even without factoring in the autism challenges. Some of the girls are beginning to enter puberty and just seem so much more sophisticated/grown up than DD - DD doesn't 'get' sarcasm and rather than seek out friends in the playground, she is often alone as she lacks the confidence to join in an established playground group. I just cannot even begin to see how she will be receptive to any learning in her current state of mind. Anyway, I've made enquiries with a private prep about permitting DD to repeat Y5 (so her peers would go on to Y6 and she would repeat Y5 in a new school). This school has a reputation for being very nurturing, is non-selective and is receptive to the idea. My thinking here is that a) Y5 is a high-pressure year when 11+ prep begins to pile on and repeating that year would ease that, b) she would have another year to mature emotionally at her own pace and to build some social confidence c) she would benefit socially and academically from being in a smaller class (and more one-to-one support available at this particular school). I really want to know if anyone has been through this (repeating a school year in another school) with their DC and if it was a positive experience. Obviously there are concerns about moving schools- will DD cope with the change (I have gently broached subject with her and she sees it as a positive suggestion so far), will the children of that Y5 group be accepting of a 'new' class member etc..From my point of view, being top of the class is not important - I just want her to be happy, not 'grow up' before her time/enjoy being a child before the added social pressures of secondary school and obviously for her do as well as she can.
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