Teacher dealt with bullying issue but now the parents are complaining

[Confusedconcern]

I was very concerned about the behaviour of a child towards my own. I reported it to the school, the teacher dealt with it the next day (very impressed), child in question admitted it all and both myself and my DS were happy with the outcome. However, I have since heard through other parents that the parent of the child in question has been complaining that they weren’t informed straight away but that it only came up at parents night in terms of their behaviour and attitude having improved dramatically. I feel sorry for the teacher because he did such a good job at putting a stop to the behaviour. Should he have informed the parent even when the behaviour didn’t continue after his intervention? Should I make the teacher know how happy I am with how he handled it?
It’s a very small school and community where everyone knows everyone of that makes any difference!

[Shannaratiger]

I would say no they don't have to inform the parents because it all got sorted.

[AjasLipstick]

He should have informed the parents in my opinion. School/parent relationships need to be excellent for the whole education system to work....if there's no communication, then how can they work together?

There's no need for you to say anything to the teacher. It's over now. It's just gossip now OP.

[AjasLipstick]

When my DD was involved in a minor bullying incident, I was informed and I was so glad! I was able to talk to DD at length about it and come to some understanding of why it happened.

[soapboxqueen]

It would depend on the severity of the incident, how out of character it was for the child and how close parents evening was to the incident.

[admission]

I would normally have expected the school to have informed the parents that child had been involved in some poor behaviour but it is all sorted now, no matter how near or far the parent's evening was away from the date of the incident.
I just wonder whether in the "excitement" of the issue, the school teacher did not fully explain the circumstances of the issue to the other parents or that the parents did not "hear" what was being said and the not informed comments are about an explanation for the wider public for the poor behaviour of their child.
I would leave well alone and leave it to the school to deal with it with it needs dealing with.

[Starlight2345]

My son was bullied a few years ago . The parent of one of the children approached me to find out what was going on . I was furious with her dc and told her to speak to school .

However at this point I would keep out of it.

[soapboxqueen]

admission How near the parents evening was to the incident or incidents is entirely relevent depending on the nature of what had been happening.

[Stompythedinosaur]

Our school bullying policy says that parents must be informed. I would expect parents to be informed of any bullying really.