DS is 9yo. Summer born Yr5. He is very sensitive and funny. Not a footballer or gamer. Tiny for his year group. He has one friend at school - they are both the slightly quirky ones who are 9yo going on 6yo iykwim. A bit out of the loop from everyone else but happy all the same.
He never tells me much about school. He seems happy, always laughing. Probably chats a bit much in class (we tell him not to) but also never been in trouble. School reports and parent's evenings always no real issues.
We have parents evening tomorrow night. I was just asking DS a few questions about school to see if there was anything he was worried about that we needed to bring up. It really is like getting blood out of a stone with him.
Anyway, he began to get upset and told me that his learning partner "Bob" has been hitting him. Tears at that point from him. Then he totally clams up "I don't want to talk about it." Lots of quizzing later it turns out that (from DS"s viewpoint, as I know there are 2 sides to a story) "Bob" sometimes slaps him on the face or pulls his ears. Maybe happens once or twice a week. Tends to happen is "Bob" gets annoyed with DS. It hurts. I think both emotionally and physically. (BTW "Bob" is one of the tallest in the class). DS not happy to try and tell the teacher if it happens "Because I will just be told to be quiet or go and sit down." Not happy to say anything to "Bob." DS just wants to wait until his teacher moves the desks and children around again.
I have finally got DS's agreement to talk to his teacher about it. I have told DS it is not acceptable and I will help him to get it to stop.
So, and sorry for the length, should I send a separate email to his teacher about it before parent's evening appointment or just wait to discuss it then?
Mostly I think just wait as easier face-to-face. But am tempted with an email tonight as
- There are severe time restraints on the meetings
- I don't want it to happen to DS again! I would prefer his teacher was aware and ideally moved him as soon as possible. I would be gutted if after finally telling me, and me telling him we would sort it he got his ears pulled again!
Would I be letting DS down by waiting? Would it be more sensible to wait? Or send an email now so the parent's evening appointment was not hijacked by this?
It sounds so silly asking the question really? But not really had an issue like this before so I don't know how to deal with it.
(Oh and DS at breakfast club in the morning, otherwise I'd just grab his teacher first thing)
WWYD?