I have an older son with a previous partner for whom I pay to keep in school, mainly single handedly, its been a struggle because my business is not doing so well in the last few years. I have a new partner and we have a DD, my partner is older and has two grown-up children. When it came to putting our DD into school I was very clear that I could not afford more school fees and so I found our DD a state school place. However, my partner comes from a rich and controlling family, he himself is very asset rich and had put his older children through private school, and he and his mother pushed for an expensive prep school place, on the basis that his mother would pay the fees. I was very reluctant to get involved, do not ever want to be saddled with more fees (i'm on the home stretch with my DS), but was bullied into accepting on the basis I was ungrateful and entitled?! Now, just over a year in, my MIL is pulling the plug and saying she can no longer afford to pay and that this will be the last year she does. Of course, we have lost the good state school place we had and I feel that my DD will struggle with any change. My partner could afford fees but basically doesnt want to spend the money, as he sees it as one gigantic lump sum and anyway, has commitments to his older children re buying them property. I feel like I am stuck in a situation not of my own making and with a bunch of controlling narcissists, all I want is for my daughter to feel happy and stable but that her education has become another thing for them to use in their strange family dynamic. Sorry if I come across as a spoilt madam, the relationship itself is very unstable and my partner is verbally abusive, I am in a difficult situation financially but I struggle to cope with the pressure and instability created by the changing situation at home. Any advice? Im really struggling.
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