Why is it the case now that the parents of the victim of bullying or an incident of a violent nature never get told what the bully / agressor's punishment actually IS?
I can't see that this would be acceptable in, say, an ABH case in court, where you as the victim weren't told whether the agressor had gone to prison, got community service, or been going not guilty.
So why is it ok for parents to have to deal with very upset DC's with no way of reassuring them that their aggressor received an appropriate punishment?
And more to the point, why do schools not have to follow a set procedure on how long punishments should have to be?
I am finding it extremely hard to placate my DS's after bullying incidents when my DS1 especially is unable to be told that X got 2 days off the playground, or he got a week's exclusion, or whether nothing actually happened.
He HATES school now, because not only does he get bullied, but he has seen what looks like no punishments happen to his aggressor, and in fact when I complained to the Deputy HT after one very violent incident, I was told that the school 'couldn't' punish him for the wounds he had inflicted on DS1 because he was 'going through a tough time at home'.
Now I guess what I am asking is WHY is this the only arena in our lives where there is no expectation that the victim should know what punishment their aggressor has received?
What is the reasoning behind this decision?
And how do you square this with making the victim of aggression feel safe at school and have trust in the school that incidents like that will ALWAYS be seen to be dealt with appropriately, regardless of the aggressor's 'home life'?
I just can't get my head around this tbh. And neither can my poor DS1. And I would like to be able to help him do so.
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Not being told of punishments in incidents of violence.
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CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs · 18/04/2013 22:14
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