My daughter is in yR. she loves school, loves going and talks a lot about it. Problem is I have been asked to stay behind 3 times now because she is not listening. She is in a special focus group for this. The teacher says she is in constant role play and shows no signs of listening, I understand what she means as sometimes I get frustrated talking to my dd as she will be looking the other way or just seemingly not paying attention. Although the strange thing is I believe although she is not actively showing signs of listening, she does listen and at home her behaviour is good. When the teacher called me behind again today explaining she is still not listening and she did a high pitched scream during a role play scenario (she wasn't meant to be in role play) she was put on the naughty side of the board for this understandable as the teacher thought something was wrong with her but actually she was playing, she also explained that she is not listening again, I explained to her that dd has told me all about divarli (sorry I am crap at spelling), and she has also been telling me about the actions to all the letters they have been learning - the teacher seemed shocked as though she hadn't realized dd was listening. How can I teach my daughter the active signs for listening?
The main barrier I am having to deal with this problem and not sure anyone can help with this because its my own demon to battle with. Whenever the teacher talks to me about her I feel so sad she doesn't behave in school and I feel panicked i just want to cry - pathetic - I know. I want to help the school out an have asked what I can do and they keep saying talk to her but problem is I think I talk too much to her about it, on saturday I really gave her a lecture on behaviour etc and I think I'm worsening the situation.
I want to have a discussion with the teacher but I end up tongue tied and emotional, I feel utterly responsible for her not listening and it's tearing me apart and my relationship with my daughter.
The teacher told me that dd is very clever and in the top 5 for reading, so I am proud of this but How do I get my daughter to realise the importance of school and to not misbehave. Not really sure the purpose of my post but if anyone has any advice or input I'd love to hear it. Thanks
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Thereistoomuchconfusion · 14/11/2012 20:23
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