backgroud: My dd is 7, she is a rather anxious child and had to have some time out of school (diagnosed with school phobia at the time), but has been in her new school for a year, and greatly helped by last year's kind and gentle teacher, has settled in well in her class, is enjoying the work and has nice friends in the class. She is a bright child who likes to do well and is well behaved in class and kind to other children.
My Dad died a week ago, and I am heartbroken. Dd is really upset and I think rather shocked (he had a degenerative disorder so had been frail for a long time ). She was too upset to go into school for a day but then I sent her in as I thought the distraction would be good, but on the second day back she got into trouble in school. She had a pencil in her hand and wrote a word onto a table (not a rude word or anything!). Dd says she has no idea why she did this, that she was just absent mindedly fiddling, which is typical of her if she is very stressed or upset. Anyway, the teacher told her off, which I can understand, but then stopped her from going out to play at break, instead she had to sit on the "naughty chair" outside the head's office. DD didn't tell us any of this, her teacher told DH the next day that she had done it, and when we mentioned it to DD she was hysterical, really really upset, she felt silly for the writing and humiliated by the chair, and I felt terrible for even sending her into school that day.
DH has spoken to her teacher, explained that she wasn't being naughty as such, but simply wasn't thinking about what she was doing, and that although we accept her being told off we felt the rest was a bit harsh given that she had just lost her Grandfather. TBh I was surprised, as she is so good normally, that the teacher didn't sit her down and ask if she was ok, rather than punishing her. Teacher has said that the head had ok-ed the punishment and that if she does something similar then it will happen again, but that "she won't, because she will have learned her lesson now".
I am really cross, i would be cross if it was another child in the class, not just because it is DD, but I am bereft of my Dad and very sad, trying to organise a funeral, so my emotions are high generally. do you think the teacher should have been a bit more sensitive?
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hellymelly · 24/09/2012 12:56
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