DD1 is a June baby and quite shy, although I have no concerns that she doesn't enjoy school once she's there. She'll mostly get to school ok but won't queue up and go in like all the other children - she wants me to go in with her and then cries and hangs off my leg while the teacher prises her off (then I leg it). Tuesday hit a new low when I had to pull her from the car, then carry her crying and kicking to the classroom. (Then I went back to the car and cried for about half an hour :( ) I had a meeting with the teacher that afternoon and didn't really find any reasons, but I've made her a deal that if she can go into the classroom by herself for the rest of the week she'll get a major treat (zoo and ice cream) on Saturday. Today she grudgingly went in holding the teacher's hand but was very sad. She says she misses me and just wants to be with me all the time. If I put her to bed she won't let me leave the room (keeps crying/clinging/making deals to come back in five mins). If DH takes her to school/puts her to bed she's fine.
So the problem seems to be leaving me. I try not to let her be too clingy (I'll go in the classroom but would happily offload her straight away), and she's never had a day off sick so knows it doesn't matter how much fuss she makes or how ill she claims to be she's still going to school. If she's feeling clingy and unhappy I don't want to be too harsh on her, but she has to learn that sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do etc.. She's not interested in 'being a big girl' so I can't get her to be brave that way, and she doesn't seem to care what her peers think of her crying or anything. There's a lovely girl in her class who usually comes up and asks if DD wants to sit next to her etc but DD just ignores her when she's upset.
Any ideas?
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plipplops · 04/07/2012 22:10
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