Not quite sure where to sart and have had to namechange.
Last week I becasme aware via dd who is in Year 5 that ds who has just gone into year 3 was being a pest in the playground.
They mixed the classes up between infants and juniors and it has been brilliant for him academically but not so good socially. Ds has always got on more with the older children who tend to baby him however it is only now he shares a playground with them. He has been complaining that no-one will play with him and getting quite grumpy about it vying for attention. So he has been playing with the older children espeically the girls. However there are times when they want to do their own thing and don;t want him around - dd included).
Dd complained that ds has been hitting them and touching them in inappropriate places. I was very cross and alarmed and spoke to hinm about it. I also spoke to his teacher about the problems he was having and told her about it - she said she had been aware thay he kept tryinng to kiss the girls but was not aware about the touching.
Dd continues to report incidents and dh and I had ds in tears - I donlt want to destroy his innicence but we exlained that he must NOT touch anyone anywhere they don;pt feel comfortable with - everyone has the right to say no to being touched including him and he was very upset - it ended up with him snuggling up to me sobbing when we explained that this was the sort of thing grown ups can go to prison for and children get taken away from their parents for.
Today I was called into school and told that ds had punched (not hard but nevertheless) a girl in Year 5 in the front privates and she had told the techer strongly that if it happened again she was reporting it to her parents.
It turned out (teacher obviously didn't tell us but we found out later) the girl is dd's best friend we are due to be taking her out for the day next week for dd's birthday treat. She is a quiet, reserved girl from a religeous family.
The teacher said the older children are still treating ds as a doll almost and then he gets frustrated. I know its all for ttention but what the hell do we do about this. How to get a 7 year old to understand what sexual abuse/harrasment is when he has no idea about sex.
He is such an affectionate little boy but he is turning into a bully. He has had some problems with some of the other children in his year outside of school in the local playground. He hd one best friend but was beginning to feel smothered by him - ast year he complained that his friend wouldn't let him play with anyone else. This friend is now in the other class andhas developed a new set of friends and ds seems not to be part of this group anymore.
When we speak to him he gets upset says he understands it is wrong, promises not do do it again etc etc but then it still happens.
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Inapopriate touching - where on earth do I go from here
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bluepuffle · 05/10/2011 22:49
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