A friend suggested that I post here for advice, as we are a bit at sea as to how to deal with this.
Eldest daughter has always been a bit shy, but she has always made good friends, and settled into preschool OK (stayed at home with me beforehand, no nursery). She did do some hair twiddling when she started preschool, and had some issues with over-reliance on adults, but the preschool was very good at dealing with her (one teacher in particular who was fantastic).
She is now at proper primary school, and superficially has settled in well. She didn't know any of the other children beforehand, but has made friends already and is always talking about playing in the playground with particular children. She really likes her teacher and has drawn pictures for her from her own initiative. She has put her hand up to answer questions on at least one occasion. And she is doing very well academically (we were concerned that she might clam up and not let the teachers know that she knew stuff already, but that hasn't happened - in fact the opposite, she told her teacher that she didn't need any help, thank you, she could do it all by herself!).
BUT, and it is a big but, she has started hair-twiddling again, but now she makes knots in her hair and pulls at the knots, pulling the hair out at the root. :( :( :( She has always been a child to keep things deep down inside, and so we don't know if there is anything that she is worried about and isn't telling us. :( There aren't any major problems at home, I've spoken to the school, and they don't know of anything (the teacher seemed really on the ball, I really like her), and she doesn't go to a childminder or anything like that, so there isn't any other situation where things could be happening that we don't know about.
Obviously, starting school is a stressful thing itself, and it's been a particularly big deal because it's all so new to her, not knowing any of the other children. She's also only been going for a few weeks, so it's all very new still. We'd really like to sort this out very quickly though, as she has already started getting bald patches and I don't want the other children to start noticing. :(
My husband is very stressed about it all. It's breaking his heart (and mine) to see her so obviously stressed and not to seem to be able to help her. I've googled, and the only good news seems to be that the younger that the child starts, the better the chances of getting them to stop. We just don't know how to get her to stop! There is more, but this is too long already!
Any advice or experiences very gratefully received.
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Just started school - HAIR PULLING - any advice welcome!
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stressystressedmum · 02/10/2011 21:37
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