Don't know what to do. DD age nearly 8 is really unhappy at school; she has no friends as has pushed them all away i think, due to her bossy assertive ways.
Last term she didnt get on well with the teacher, who found fault with everything, even when my DD tried to please her - and although its minor, she never was rewarded with the high achiever or star of the week. (i know this means nothing, but it was important to her).
on advice from MN last term I brought it to the attention of head teacher, and said she wasn't happy and what did he suggest we could do about it.
This year she has 2 teachers on a job-share arrangement - they both seem really nice and are aware that she is a reluctant school attender and about the friends issue.
Is it like running away, if we just move to a different school and start over. I feel that she can't ever win round or change her 'bossy' reputation by staying at current school. There is small possibility of changing class, but i dont know if that would solve it.
2 local schools both have spaces available to move to - but maybe we should stay put and try to sort something out
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does anyone ever move schools mid-term?
angelinterceptor · 30/09/2011 12:10
We moved our DS in October last year, he had only been at the school since September but it was the best thing we have ever done for him. Same as you meant we had to drive 5 miles rather than walk, but the other children didn't know what he had been through it was a fresh start and by the end of the year my scared bullied child turned into the most confident most popular child in the class. 
Well I hope that one of the 2 other schools you are going to see is good, because my gut reaction from reading the above post is - what are you waiting for!! Move her!
Her teacher sound crap tbh - why write to you, asking YOU to make sure she joins in at break time!? How the hell are you supposed to do that? You are not at the school are you - the teachers are. And how can your dd join in if the others won't let her?
Also, who gives a shit what the teacher thinks about her moving schools? She is your daughter and only you know what is right for her. It is not running away, it is moving her to an environment where her spirit won't be broken 
and where she will have some friends who include her in their games.
I recently moved my dd (yr 3, nearly 8) to a new (much better) school but she found the whole fitting in thing hard to start with. She was very bossy and over confident - which was basically her way of coping with not feeling included. It made her appear unfriendly and some of the boys started picking on her - which of course made her more unhappy.
She, however, has a brilliant teacher and a FANTASTIC TA who can see why these things are happening and is helping her to find ways to deal with it. She writes in her special diary 2-3 times a week, telling me who she has played with, her score out of 5 for the day and last week set her a 'challenge', which was to smile every time she saw her. We have had long chats with her about bossiness and this term she is making a real effort to calm down a bit with everything. Already she is feeling more popular and has had tea invites from 2 different girls.
I guess my dd hasn't been at her school as long as your dd has hers, so the perceptions of the other children are not so ingrained. But if you truly think she will always be seen as 'too bossy' and will never fit in and always be isolated, please think hard about a different school. 3 years is a long time to be so unhappy.
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