My ds F, who was 4 in August, has just started reception part-time. We considered deferring his start (he's quite young for his age in some ways as well as being young for his year) but eventually decided he could cope starting part time and that he might actually enjoy the struture of school (his nursery was very unstructured, which I think he at times found overwhelming).
So - all going OK so far. He looks forward to going, plays 'schools' when we get home, likes the teachers, seems excited about learning etc... But he's really struggling with playtimes and friendships. He's been very slow to develop socially and really hasn't 'got' the friendship thing at all. I think he still finds other children slightly bemusing and, while he has great conversation with adults, finds it a bit hard to relate to his peers. So playtimes, where everyone else is running around and seems to know what to do, are hard for him. So apparently he cries when his teacher and the teaching assistant go inside (they've said they're trying to withdraw more at playtimes now). There's another member of staff on duty but not sure what support they offer him.
I'm meeting with the teacher tomorrow to discuss (for the 2nd time this week - 1st time left me with more questions). Not sure she's too happy about me arranging a 2nd meeting but I need to know I've done all I can to help him. I think the teacher thinks he'll soon get more confidence and start joining in. I'm less convinced. I think he needs a lot of guidance and direction about how to make friends and participate, and I'm really not sure where he's going to get that from. I've been surprised how much they're just left to their own devices in the playground - obviously suits the more confident and boisterous but others are clearly suffering.
Any ideas on what I can reasonably ask of the teacher; any suggestions about what the school could offer/what other schools do - eg organised games, equipment to play with; and any ideas about how I can help him develop those social skills? All thoughts much appreciated.
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4 y.o. struggling with school playtimes
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timeplease · 29/09/2011 20:47
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