Hi all,
Just back from the school pick up and need some advice.
DS (5) is in Senior Infants (sorry I dont know what the UK equiv is). This is his second year in the school. Last year was a bit of a disaster, every day I was being told he was bold in class, didnt finish work, was crying a lot etc. We worked really hard on these issues. His teacher felt he was immature for his age. He is an only, was a bit spoiled, treated really badly in nursery by other kids. However, outside school, there were never any problems, happy, friendly polite, no bothers. Played well with friends, lots of these friends were made in school, all the other kids are genuinely mad about him.
So back to school in Sept and yet again. Im in the hall being told how bad he has been. However, here is my issue. I am the first person to admit when he is bold, some would say I can be too strict, but I really feel now that my DS has been singled out and will always be seen as the 'bad' kid in class.
Today, I collected him and was told that they were bringing the class downstairs and were told to be quiet so not to disturb other classes. As they were passing down the hall, he started talking really loudly-he thought they were going to the new library and he was shouting "oh we are off to the library" in a kind of sing song voice. She told him to be quiet and he was. Another teacher came out and gave out to him for making noise, he apologised. End of story.
But today I realised how ridiculous about it she is being. She kept saying " I dont understand, why did he do it, I told him be quiet, why is he like this is he looking for attention?" In and on and on, and as I stood there I thought, how much more can I stand here for , is this the way its always going to be? And I ended up being short with her, I said he is 5 and a half, he isnt the first one to speak out of turn, he was just the only one at that time. She said " yes but I had to speak to him today as he and Child x were messing today" Child X was not spoken to.. This happened too last year when 4 kids at 1 table had an argument about crayons, only my DS had a letter home.
I want to talk to her, I want to tell her, I acknowledge my childs issues, he is very good in school bar these few issues but the behaviour she describes doesnt tally with his behaviour at home or outside school. I want to tell her I think at times he is singled out as the bold one when its not always the case.
So any advice would be appreciated (and sorry for the long rant!)
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How do I talk to my DS teacher without becoming too emotional?
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BoscoIsMyLover · 19/09/2011 15:06
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